Wise people ask for help and invite others in.

Most of us are reluctant to ask for help. If you’re reading this, you’re likely a driven person—trying to grow and get better. So, this is probably an issue for you, too. We don’t like feeling weak. We don’t like being in need. We prefer to take the humble and vulnerable position of risking rejection, or a “no.”

Or, we think that it’ll be faster if we just do it ourselves. That way, we don’t have to ask someone, train someone, fix it when they don’t do it perfectly, etc. It’s just easier this way, we tell ourselves. And we’re cheating ourselves. We’re also cheating someone—not inviting them to play a role and make a contribution.

Letting our discomfort with “needing people” causes us to miss out on:

  • new relationships
  • freeing up future time
  • investing in another life
  • discovering a better way of doing something
  • empowering another person to use their abilities

Stop making excuses and ASK.

Wise people ask for help and involve others.

Hand the thing off. Yes,

tell —> show —> watch —> support

Hand things off properly. But hand things off. Invite others in. Walk the humble road of not having all the answers or resources to get it all done. We need each other. It’s better this way, and you’ll be better when you empower others to play a part.

So… identify what you need… identify possible need-meeters… and ask for it.

“As it is, there are many parts, but one body. The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘don’t need you!’ and the head cannot say to the feet, ‘I don’t need you!’ ” -1 Corinthians 12:20-21